I Miss My Dad
On March 23, 2001 my father died suddenly from a heart attack. He was 62 years old. It's been hard on me. My wife suggested that I go see a therapist that specializes in helping people grieve. I didn't want to go. After continuing to break down a lot, I decided that going to a psychologist might not be such a bad idea after all, so I went. Among other things, the therapist asked me what I would say to my father if he was with us in the room. This is what I had to say:
"Dad, I really miss you. I love you. I know that we had a good relationship, and I know that you knew how I loved you. I just wish that I told you more often."
Why this site?
I don't know; I'm not sure. I do know that I felt a little more able to deal with the horrible finality of my father's death after visiting the psychologist. So I started thinking that other people who are going through a similar experience might feel a little better if they could articulate a thought to their dad. So, I invite you to contribute. If your dad passed away and you want to say something to him, just email me your message and I will post it on this site.
e-mails I've received so far:
Hi Dad. I miss you so much! Yesterday was my Birthday, and I really wish you
were with me. I want you to know that you are the best Dad anyone can have. You
were always there for me. I love you and I will never forget you.
Love your Baby Girl
I miss you so much papasan. I want to talk to you, hear your
voice, and tell you how the kids are doing. It's only been 6 weeks but I feel
some days its been forever. Why Why Why? Why did you smoke so much-------Why
couldn't the doctors do more, why didn't I tell you every day that I loved you
so much. Somebody help me in this time of need!!!!!!!!!!!
Tomorrow is Father's Day. I won't be able to call you and tell you I love you, and that hurts so very, very much. I wanted you to know that the other night during choir practice, as I sang I was sure heard your voice -- not mine -- coming out of my mouth; that you were singing through me. You will always sing through me, Dad, and through everyone else who loved you. While I miss you terribly, I know you are still with me. I write this e-mail through tears of pain and sorrow, but also through tears of love and hope. I will always love you Dad, and that love will keep you alive in my heart. Your loving son, Steve
Please click on the links below to read more email messages, and then send one if you like.
February 2010: I just created a Facebook group called "I Miss My Dad.com", you may want to post your letter to the wall. I feel that this is a great improvement over the web version because there will be an interactive component to your experience. Having run this website over a decade (wow, how time flies...), I know that most people that post also want to talk with others who are grieving. With the magic of Facebook that will now be possible. Your choice.
January 2012: For those that like to read on their Kindles, I have placed the first couple of hundred letters on a kindle ebook.